After We Married
February 22, 2017

“Out of [this relationship] between man and woman…the first thing to arise is the household…” Aristotle, Politics There turned out to be much more going on than we realized, in our love for one another. I fell in love with you, and you fell in love with me—albeit, a little later. But […]

Living These Relationships, Every Day
February 15, 2017

“Therefore, it is clear that the care of the household concerns human beings more than material property…” Aristotle, Politics “Here Aristotle infers that the chief aim of [parents] concerns these two relationships [with one another, and with their children] more than other things.” Thomas Aquinas, Commentary on Aristotle’s Politics We might not […]

The Marriage Bed: Can It Really Work?
July 13, 2016

“The bed is the center of the couple’s life together: the place where they lie together, talk, make love, sleep, sleep late, take care of each other during illness … The importance of the bed as an anchor point in a couple’s life is brought home in this passage from Homer… [Alexander […]

Wednesday Quotes
My Wife Has What I Need
March 23, 2016

“Men and women, however, live together not only to procreate children but also to have whatever is needed for life. Indeed, from the beginning, family duties are distinct; some are proper to the husband, others to the wife. Thus mutual needs are provided for, when each contributes his own services to the […]

Wednesday Quotes
Can a Young Man Love a Woman?
February 17, 2016

“Young men’s love then lies not truly in their hearts but in their eyes.” Shakespeare, Romeo and Juliet The other day wondering aloud over breakfast whether a young man is capable of truly loving a woman, I asked, “What’s wrong with young men?” My wife immediately answered: “They’re young.” Shakespeare’s friar challenges […]

Wednesday Quotes
The Apology I Owe Her
December 16, 2015

“But in correction, above all avoid anger and bitterness of spirit. Otherwise you may seem to wish not to amend a friend so much as to vent your own spleen. Indeed, I have observed that in reproving friends some people hide their growing bitterness and overflowing rage under the cloak of zeal […]

Wednesday Quotes
Kissing Honestly
November 18, 2015

“The physical kiss should be offered or accepted only for fixed and honest reasons.” Aelred of Rievaulx, Spiritual Friendship Sometimes we need to stop and reflect on our anatomy. What a remarkable feature of the human body that it seems custom designed to give, and to receive, a kiss. Wherever I go […]

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You, Child, are Our Bond
October 14, 2015

“And children seem to be a bond of union.” Aristotle, Nicomachean Ethics Moved by these words of Aristotle, I write here… An Open Letter to My Child Even your father can never tell you, because I cannot fully know, how good it is that you exist. You will ever be a mysterious wonder […]

Wednesday Quotes
Twentieth Anniversary
January 7, 2015

I never could have known what a blessing it would be. How does one ever measure? Those who have been there know. The suffering and trials can be simply beyond telling. But therein we can actually learn, or at least finally begin to see, that no suffering is too great. Period. Love […]

Wednesday Quotes
A Husband in Winter
January 15, 2014

“At the very moment when the vine has shed Its latest leaves and the cold north wind has shaken The glory from the woods, at that same moment The lively husbandman projects his thoughts Into the coming year…” Virgil, The Georgics, II, 403-406 A husband in a family is like a husband […]