Intentional Friendship
November 29, 2017

“In choosing and testing friends you should not grow weary of caution, for the fruit of this labor is medicine for life and the most solid foundation for immortality.” Aelred of Rievaulx, Spiritual Friendship In his great treatise Aelred names four steps of true friendship. The first two, on which he focuses […]

Good Work with Friends
October 25, 2017

“Indeed friends seem to become better by working together…” Aristotle, Nicomachean Ethics There is something about good, hard work. You feel so alive, so purposeful. And when you work alongside people you love, you feel so alive and so purposeful together. We do not always get to work alongside our friends and […]

The Conversation of Friends
October 18, 2017

“…they have little taste for conversation, which especially seems to be the mark and cause of friendship.” Aristotle, Nicomachean Ethics One of the most notable aspects of Aristotle’s understanding of true friendship is just how much it requires of a person. In this quotations he is speaking of those who are not […]

Perfect Friendship
September 20, 2017

“Perfect friendship is the friendship of men who are good, and alike in virtue.” Aristotle, Nicomachean Ethics Perfect friendship: the words sound like a fairy tale. What Aristotle means here is the kind of friendship that is most true, the kind of friendship that most fulfills the human heart. Not every friendship […]

Can Siblings Become Friends?
December 7, 2016

Can siblings become our best friends? Should we expect this? What challenges do siblings face in becoming friends? How might parents foster sibling friendships in the home? I explore these issues at the Biola Center for Christian Studies blog here: Friendship Among Siblings: Embracing the uniqueness of familial bond

Aristotle and the Elections
November 3, 2016

“Now it is best that there should be a public and proper care for such matters; but if they are neglected by the [political] community it would seem right for each man to help his children and friends toward virtue.” Aristotle, Nicomachean Ethics Elections can make you wonder about where you live. […]

Quarrel or Conversation
October 12, 2016

Quarrel or conversation. The distinction is significant. And Plato makes it. Today Crisis Magazine posted my thoughts here on how the recent Presidential debates should make us reflect on the importance of this distinction for public life, and for our most intimate relationships. A Lament on the Declining Quality of Public Discourse

Wednesday Quotes
Vulnerable Happiness
September 7, 2016

“That the fortunes of descendants and of all a man’s friends should not affect his happiness at all seems an unfriendly doctrine, and one opposed to the opinions men hold.” Aristotle, Nicomachean Ethics Aristotle has just argued for one of the cornerstones of his worldview: human happiness most of all consists in […]

Wednesday Quotes
Our Only Refuge?
March 9, 2016

“And in poverty and misfortunes men think friends are the only refuge.” Aristotle, Nicomachean Ethics In sorrow as well as in joy, but even more so in sorrow, we feel that we need to turn to other people. This says much about human life. It is worth asking ourselves: to whom can […]