After We Married
February 22, 2017

“Out of [this relationship] between man and woman…the first thing to arise is the household…” Aristotle, Politics There turned out to be much more going on than we realized, in our love for one another. I fell in love with you, and you fell in love with me—albeit, a little later. But […]

Living These Relationships, Every Day
February 15, 2017

“Therefore, it is clear that the care of the household concerns human beings more than material property…” Aristotle, Politics “Here Aristotle infers that the chief aim of [parents] concerns these two relationships [with one another, and with their children] more than other things.” Thomas Aquinas, Commentary on Aristotle’s Politics We might not […]

Saying Goodbye, Every day. A Letter to My Children
February 8, 2017

“The household is the association established by nature for the supply of men’s everyday wants…” Aristotle, Politics According to Aristotle, a household is that small community of people with whom, by nature’s design, we live every day. It is a community united by the simple and often mundane activities of daily life. […]

Reclaiming Manners at Table
February 1, 2017

“At table let mirth be with thee, let ribaldry be exiled…for at table it becometh not to be sad nor to make others sad. … Nothing should be blirted out at table that might diminish mirth. It is wrong to defame the character of those not present; nor should one’s personal sorrow […]

Reclaiming Manners between Men and Women
January 25, 2017

The latest in my series on Reclaiming Manners is an article I posted at The Catholic Gentleman, a reflection on this quotation: “The greatest man would justly be reckoned a brute if he were not civil to the meanest woman.” Martine’s Handbook of Etiquette (1866) Today’s article is HERE. How to Treat […]

Habits of the Father
January 18, 2017

“For as in cities laws have force, so in households do the injunctions and the habits of the father, and these have even more because of the tie of blood and the benefits he confers; for the children start with a natural affection and disposition to obey.” Aristotle, Nicomachean Ethics As laws […]

Reclaiming Manners in Dress
January 11, 2017

“Wear not your clothes foul, ripped or dusty, but see that they be brushed once every day, at least, and take heed that you approach not to any uncleanness.” Rules of Civility and Decent Behavior* Common practice in dress has notably deteriorated. Many young people can hardly fathom more civilized customs of […]

Reclaiming Manners: Honoring Age
January 4, 2017

“You shall stand up before the hoary head, and honor the face of an old man…” Leviticus 19:32 Honoring age, by obvious and meaning-full bodily signs, is as old as humanity. Which signs are to be used is a matter of custom; that signs must be used is a matter of a […]

Making a Castle, This Time of Year
December 28, 2016

“At this time of the year–the Christmas and New Year time–I am seldom out of my Castle. For the associations of the season seem to hold me there, and the precepts of the season seem to teach me that it is well to be there.” Charles Dickens, in ‘The Poor Relation’s Story’ […]

Reclaiming Manners in Speech
December 21, 2016

“Be not forward but friendly and courteous; the first to salute, hear, and answer; and be not pensive when it’s a time to converse.” #66, Rules of Civility & Decent Behaviour in Company and Conversation* Regarding our power of speech Aristotle observes: “Nature, as we often say, makes nothing in vain, and […]